Learning To Forgive

Forgiveness can be one of the hardest things to do, especially when the hurt runs deep. Whether it’s a betrayal, harsh words, or a broken trust, letting go feels impossible. But as Christians, we are called to forgive, just as we have been forgiven by Christ. When we hold onto unforgiveness, we not only hurt ourselves, but we also hinder our relationship with God. Forgiveness isn’t about excusing someone's actions, but about freeing ourselves from the burden of bitterness and allowing God to heal our hearts.

3 Points

1. We forgive because we have been forgiven The foundation of Christian forgiveness is rooted in the sacrifice of Jesus. In Matthew 6:14-15, Jesus tells us, "For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins." This is a powerful reminder that our forgiveness is tied to how we treat others. When we understand the depth of God's grace toward us, we realize that forgiving others is not an option—it’s a necessity.

2. Forgiveness is for our healing Often, we think that forgiveness benefits the person who hurt us, but the truth is that forgiveness is for us. When we refuse to forgive, we carry around a burden that only grows heavier over time. This burden can turn into bitterness, resentment, and even physical stress. Unforgiveness locks us in a prison of pain, but when we choose to forgive, we set ourselves free. It doesn’t mean we have to forget what happened, but it means we are choosing peace over pain.

3. The closer you get to Jesus, the more you want to forgive Walking with Jesus transforms us from the inside out. The more we grow in our relationship with Him, the more we become like Him, and forgiveness becomes part of our new nature. The Holy Spirit works in us, softening our hearts and helping us let go of anger and bitterness. As we draw near to Christ, we are reminded of His ultimate act of forgiveness on the cross, and it becomes easier to extend that same grace to others.

Forgiveness is not easy, but it’s a command from God. It’s a process that takes time and effort, but through prayer and seeking God's help, it’s possible. Every step toward forgiveness brings you closer to healing and freedom. Remember, we forgive not because others deserve it, but because Jesus forgave us first.

Prayer for forgiving someone

Father God, I am currently having trouble forgiving someone in my life. Ive been hurt and don’t know how to move forward. I don’t want to forgive but your word says that in order for me to be forgiven I must forgive my brothers and sisters as well. Help me to let go of the grudges and bitterness I may be holding against someone and help me to heal from this hurt. It won't be easy but I know I do not have to do this alone. Help me to be more like Jesus everyday, forgiving those who have hurt me and loving my enemies. Help me put my pride aside and walk in love, forgiveness, and humility. Thank you for the love and grace you offer to me and for shedding your blood while I was still in my sin. If you can forgive all I have done against you, I know I can forgive others as well.

In Jesus name, Amen